Happy Sunday friends, it’s been a LONG minute since I have posted a blog on Mentalie Me due to many many amazing life events but enough excuses I AM HERE. Ready to show up for you all and give you what you asked for. One of my goals this year is to show up more consistently on my Instagram and Blog, basically when I say I am going to do something I follow through and SHOW UP. First blog of 2020 is all about silencing your inner critic. Here we go babes.
I am too fat. too skinny. too ugly. Not good enough. I am worthless. No one cares if I am alive. I am useless. The constant merry-go-round of your inner critic chit chatting away in your head just chipping away at your self-confidence and self-worth. Your mind is so powerful. It literally controls everything you do. This self-critic lays dormant and often heightens one’s depression and anxiety. I know it did for me. It is “the thing” that started my anxiety attacks and then spiraled me into a dark depression.
You damage yourself and your soul. You get sucked into your inner critics thoughts of yourself. Often the problem or the thoughts in your head are way bigger than the reality or the truth. It is so so true when people say you are your own worst enemy, my friend they ain’t lying. I struggled with this daily when I was severely depressed and I still struggle with this inner critic from time to time. To be honest, it will ALWAYS be there ready to knock you down. Anyone else feel scared to be happy or proud of your own achievements? Like if you get to excited then you feel like it will come tumbling down. So you just breathe a sigh of relief and move on to the next thing you got to do in life. That is not a way to live your life. I have learned over the last two years that my inner critic stems from me thinking others think poorly of me and I believe that no one could ever love me or that I would ever be good enough to be in their lives. My inner critic tells me my dreams are far too big and “who do I think I am dreaming those things I want so badly?”
So, how do you get past that to become that baddest boss b*tch or boss man?
Honestly the biggest thing that has leveled me up and past the self-doubt that comes from my mind is self-affirmation. NO ONE, I mean no one other than yourself can change how you think about you. I mean Rob, my husband, could tell me till he’s blue in the face how beautiful I am to him or how I loved I am. And I will come back at him with the reasons why he’s lying.
When you hear the slightest bit of your mind begin to bully you into thinking you are less than AH-MAZZING, battle it back with reasons why you are freaking cool and great. If it throws a jab come back at it with powerful right hook and shut it up. Think about it, would you tell your friends those things? What would you tell your best friend if they came to you and said they were ugly and fat? You would be their biggest hype man. So, why is it so hard for us to do that for ourselves?
You have to decide when your inner self-critic will no longer have control over you. You have to decide when you will silence the bully. Push pass the BS your mind is telling you. It is easier said than done but we all have to start somewhere. It may seem impossible but you got this. Your inner critic will come back every now and then, and that is okay. It will teach you discipline and self-love. EVERYONE has one so don’t think your flawed for battling with this inner critic.
TAKE AWAY THE POWER YOU ONCE GAVE IT.